Every guy should own sex lube. A proper lubricant isn’t just for a nice handy (which, by the way, are totally underrated). If you’re heading for the backdoor, it’s the only way you’ll get in—as a doctor will tell you. But here’s why you’ll want a bottle in your nightstand even if you never leave missionary island: Lube makes vanilla P in V sex even more fantastic, if that’s even possible—not least because your partner will appreciate your thoughtfulness and consideration.
Here are our favorites for every bedroom activity—whether you’re after sex in the shower, with a toy, with someone you love, a stranger, or all four of those things at once.
The Best Overall Lube
This lube is basically the holy grail: it’s water-based, so it’s compatible with all sex toys and condoms, but it has the cushiony thickness of a silicone-based lube, making it comfortable and long-lasting enough for rough sex and even anal play. It also contains aphrodisiac ingredients like ginseng root and horny goat weed, to boost your desire levels even further.
The Best Lube for When You Need It Now
There’s a reason that Astroglide is a household name: the stuff works, it’s cheap as hell, and it’s sold everywhere. Think of it as the Budweiser of lubes. Much like the king of beers, this product is water-based (which means it won’t ruin silicone sex toys). You can use it for backdoor BDSM sex in a dungeon or missionary with the lights off.
The Best Silicone Lube
Shower sex is as steamy as the movies make it out to be until you realize that water is weirdly sticky. Don’t ruin a fantasy because you can’t get it in. Maude Shine Silicone Lube works in the shower (and underwater) to keep things friction-free (even if you only use this with your hand in the shower before work).
The Best-Looking Lubes
When your bedroom is a temple—where the magic happens—there’s no place for a half-squeezed crusty bottle of drugstore lube on your bedside table. Lelo’s Personal Moisturizer comes in a bottle so beautiful that your date might mistake it for expensive fragrance until they experience the lasting smoothness of this luxurious water-based product from what’s perhaps the world’s top sex toy company.
Or, if sleekly futuristic is more your vibe, check out this excellent water-based lube from Goodparts, a brand looking to de-stigmatize lube for all guys through the power of very on-point branding.
The Best Simple, Straightforward Lube
With just six ingredients, this is one of the simplest lubes out there, so it’s great for people with sensitive skin. It’s vegan, non-flavored, non-scented, hypoallergenic, and plays well with all toys and condoms. What’s not to love?
The Best Lube for Sex Toys
After the right lubricant, sex toys are the best thing you can use to keep your sex life interesting. But you’ve got to make sure those accessories are going to play well together. Silicone lube is popular because it lasts a long time, but it can degrade silicone toys, which limits your options. When you’re bringing something new into bed opt for a durable water-based lubricant such as Unbound Jelly to keep all of your options open.
The Best Lube for Monogamous Relationships
If you’re using condoms, you should always avoid oil-based lubricants, as they’re not latex friendly. (There’s nothing like a broken rubber to ruin the mood.) However, if you’re in a monogamous and fluid-bonded relationship in which all partners have been tested, you can reach for a long-lasting and great feeling oil-based product. (It’ll do double-duty as massage oil.) We like Woo’s Coconut Love Oil, which works on all bodies and is so organic that you can eat it (we’ll let you fill in the blanks there).
The Best Flavored Lube
Flavored lubes can be used to mask the taste of latex if you use condoms or dental dams during oral sex; they’re also just a fun novelty to try once in a while, and they help boost saliva production for wetter, hotter head. Most flavored lubes use sweetening agents that make them risky for people prone to vaginal infections, but this one is sweetened with aspartame so it doesn’t cause nearly as much irritation. The pink lemonade flavor is surprisingly yummy!
The Best Lube for Shaking Things Up
In case the name wasn’t enough (it rhymes with “duck sauce”) Emojibator’s Phuksaus is a CBD-infused pleasure gel that’s perfect for when you want to get weird but still get off. Research suggests that the cannabinoid might increase blood flow and therefore enhance orgasms. It also may decrease pain and inflammation, especially for people with vulvas. So, the next time you want to fuck out of the box and try something new.
The Most Luxe Lube
With its elegant bottle and silky texture, this silicone-based lube will make you feel like a million bucks. You can use it anywhere on your body, but it’s particularly well-suited for handjobs or masturbation because it stays slick for far longer than water-based lubes.