Let’s get this out of the way: Massage oil is a little corny. It’s hard not to think of a mojo-less Austin Powers offering a sensual massage or Jerry Seinfeld contemplating becoming an “orgy guy” who has to get “all kinds of robes and lotions.” But the truth is that massage can do so much: it relaxes us, helps us release stress, keeps us present and centered, and, yes, sometimes it turns us all the way on. It’s an intimate way of connecting with a partner by making them feel as blissed-out as you can. What could be better than that?
One of the most common causes of libido issues is stress. It can feel nearly impossible to relax into arousal, desire, and pleasure when your mind is running a mile a minute, trying to process all the stressors of the day. Both giving and receiving a massage can force you to focus on the present moment, and to let go of whatever anxieties are hounding you, at least for a few minutes. This makes it much easier to get turned on and then get busy. Massage products should be just another item in your sexual toolkit. (Like sex toys for men or sex toys for couples.)
While you could always just use your hands and any skin-safe oil you happen to have already, specialized massage products can make the experience more immersive, comfortable, and overall horny for both partners. So here are some products that elevate a simple massage into something a little sexier than a quick should rub.
The Best Massage Oil
Organic, hypoallergenic, and vegan-friendly, this massage oil would be a solid pick for just about anyone. It blends sweet almond, coconut, grapeseed, and jojoba seed oils with various skin-soothing botanical extracts, and its Tahitian vanilla scent is perfect for cultivating a chilled-out headspace.
The Best Fragrance-Free Massage Oil
This silky liquid is a skin-nourishing mix of jojoba, coconut, castor, and argan oils—and nothing else. If your skin is prone to irritation or you don’t react well to scented products, but you still want to give and/or receive luxuriant massages, this could be your holy grail.
The Best Oil for Genital Massage
The hemp-derived CBD in this oil helps increase arousal and sensitivity by boosting bloodflow to your hotspots. It’s a decadent pick for genital massage, whether you’re touching yourself or someone else. (Don’t use oils on your junk, or your partner’s, if you plan on using latex barriers such as condoms or dental dams later in your session, as oils make them more prone to breakage.)
The Best Massage Candle
A massage candle is a must-have for seductive nights in. Like a normal scented candle, it fills the room with an nice aroma—but its wax, when melted, transforms into a pourable, skin-safe massage oil. It’s a much lower temperature than a standard candle, but dripping hot wax on someone’s skin can be pretty kinky in and of itself, too!
The Best Massage Stones
Sometimes hands just aren’t firm enough or strong enough to apply sufficient pressure to achy muscles. That’s where this trio of massage stones comes in. They have a unique curved design that makes them easy to hold onto, even when your hands are covered in oil – and their ultra-smooth porcelain material holds temperature well, incase you want to pre-warm them to help melt away all that muscle tension.
The Best All-Over Body Massager
A classic, a legend, an icon. This thing is sometimes euphemistically marketed as a personal massager. But honestly, it’s true! There is nothing quite like the Magic Wand when you want deep, rumbly vibration on your tensest, sorest spots. If you then move it towards more, uh, sensitive areas—well, you’re going to like that, too. This version is rechargeable, so you won’t have to deal with dangling power cords.
The Best Massager That’s Also a Sex Toy
One end of this toy is a rolling, vibrating massage wheel that loosens tense muscles with ease, while the other end is an insertable vibrator designed to stimulate the G-spot or prostate. What will they think of next?